When you’ve been in a long-term relationship with the person you love, 4 years feels like a cozy blanket of time that only makes you stronger. 

It’s our 4th year anniversary today! March 13th, 2025. I spent the last two days stressing about what we could do together that showed -others- how special we are to each other. But that didn’t feel right to me; searching for pottery classes, camping sites, restaurants, or sky diving activities didn’t line up with our day. Knowing that only made me anxious about how my partner may feel about it; Would he think I didn’t care about him? Am I not making this day special enough? Does me feeling okay about not doing anything different bother him? 

This was slowly eating me up inside, and disrupting my chill energy. So instead of not suffering alone in this day meant for two, I decided to ask him directly and have him weigh in on how he was feeling about the whole situation. 

Okay- *breath in*

ring ring ring

He answers of course, like a good boyfriend. 

Soo my love, what are we doing about tomorrooow . We’ve got nothing planned.

He says

Uhhh, whatever we want as long as I’m with you. We can do nothing or whatever we always do because even spending another day together makes me feel like the happiest and most special man in the world. 

Nerd. He’s teasing me 

I laugh it off and feel silly for even thinking this would be a big deal for him. 

Okay, I say, let’s get bagels from Hanks and go to the park, then do whatever we want to do. 

I feel the exact same. Anything together for another day is like a celebration, we can go do pottery classes, camping, eating at restaurants, or sky diving activities in a couple of weeks when we have more time and less responsibility. It’ll be more fun that way. Or even if not at all, that’s chill with me too.  

I wonder if other people understand what I’m talking about. This certain feeling that we don’t have to be doing something all the time. Chilling at home, at a park, or eating a meal together is plenty. 

We have so much fun together throughout the year already. Why add pressure that only ruins the excitement and genuine experience we could be having together. 

Of course, if we weren’t doing anything because we forgot or couldn’t be bothered, then Houston, we would have a problem. 

But that wasn’t the case at all. Both of us spent time thinking about what we could do to make the other person happy. Just that alone to me, makes me feel like a special girl, even four years in. Because when you spend nearly all your time with that other person, thinking about them when you are not together can feel unreasonable. So the fact that we even stressed and thought about it away from each other proves to me more than a spectacular expensive event would prove that we love each other. 

Thankfully for me, I rarely worry in our relationship. Keeping the open, honest communication between you and your partner is one of the best pieces of advice I could give. Also knowing when not to say something is important. I think honesty is always a good thing, but if you have a fleeting thought that doesn’t mean much to you, it could mean so much to your partner. 

Overall, we spent a lovely day together getting bagels, walking around the park, writing each other love letters, watching TV, and grocery shopping.

There is no one else in this world I’d rather do nothing but chill with.